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I have had EMDR done on several trauma memories about 3 years ago. I am 50 and just had to deal with an horrific trauma memory looping in my head yesterday. I had to practice what I call literal mindfulness. Where I say under my breathe exactly what I am doing. "I am walking to my car...walking...walking. I am pressing the unlock key. I am opening the door. I am sliding into my seat. I am closing the door." You get the idea. Every time that memory starts replaying in my head I start doing the mindfulness again. It helps until I get a distraction that demands my full attention like going to my next clients session.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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