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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I am sorry golden_eye but even though this has been a difficult loss, you avoided what could have been years of being trapped with a man that would have dragged you down with him while he continued to give into this disease and it would have cost you maybe some good years of your life where you could be looking for someone healthier that you can actually count on to enjoy your life with.
It is better to not be married and wish you were than to be married and wish you weren't.
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Thanks.
This is a most valid and astute comment that I need to further embrace for my own healing.
I know he would have dragged me down, given my experience thus far. It could have become much more costly to me in all ways, including financial. I don't even know if he has the ability to remain employed very long given his issues. I would be carrying most the financial weight. Then there's just all of his problems and issues and poor behavior. Good lord. It could have been a true nightmare for me. Stressful and hard.
And here I've been wanting him to want me back? And for what? So I can feel validated ??? There's no point.