Hey. Yeah, I understand where you are coming from. I haven't had a sexual relationship with a therapist, but I have had sexual relationships with people who were in positions of authority (where their doing so was just as inappropriate as if it had been a therapist). I get on with guys better, too. I think that it is possible for you to work on this stuff productively with a male clinician. Most clinicians are trustworthy in that respect (though there are a few bad eggs, to be sure). With repect to trustworthyness... Only time will tell.

You could start out by asking 'do you think there are any circumstances under which it is appropriate for a clinician to have sexual relations with a client / someone who used to be a client?' Surveys on this have been done... The response was disconcerting... You want to find someone who responds with a univocal: 'No'. I'd screen initially by this strategy, and then, only time will tell. Trust takes time. There is no circumventing that.