Your right to be wary . On the whole most people are ok to deal with on a superficial level , but true deep connection which can withstand our natural instincts as humans is hard to find . If you live your whole life and can count five people that wouldn't let you down , sell you out for gain , or desert you in time of crisis , then your indeed a very fortunate person . This is not something I would recommend for others , but I generally mistrust everyone I meet , I portray a congenial personality so I don't seem aloof or unfriendly , but I keep them at arms length and never confide in them anything I could possibly regret later . Some people need lots of others around them to feel comfortable , some need few and some need one or maybe none . For myself I do not have one true friend in the world , I don't require them , but I do have one soul mate . This is more than enough for me . So however you lead your life , all you have to do is get lucky once and meet that person or those few people . It can take a few days , or a lifetime to discover them .