I think what you want is to feel like YOU are the one in control. This may be something you had failed to feel when it came to how your father treated you. I think you are getting triggered because you feel like others don't understand it when you say YOU took the initiative and YOU called this guy and it's YOUR choice to meet with him. After all, YOU were the one who cut out too, so to you that helps you feel like you are the one in control.

It's ok to be hurt or let down as long as YOU are the one that makes the decision to engage or not engage. You just need to know that you have the true power in the picture even when you know a person has flaws where they can use you for their own ego. People like that can be fun to be with, they can do fun things you like to do so why not? Right?

This guy already knows he is good looking, he already knows how to have fun too, he knows how to be a good sex partner and he knows not to say he can't commit too. He is a 'player". He knows how to also give a woman the sense that she is in control too. He is the type that tends to like to have a string of women who adore him that he can play with and if one walks away another one will come along. He has learned he can be prince charming and he likes to be that kind of "player".

Call him, go out with him if you wish and have fun, but, just allow yourself to know what he is.