I'm sorry you had this experience. Personally, I don't think it is possible to answer your questions based on this one incident. For one thing I wasn't there (obviously). And for another, I don't think one can judge the ability or effectiveness of a counselor or therapist based on a single occurrence. From what you wrote, it does sound as though she was being assertive. That's not necessarily bad. What has irritated me in the past, with therapists I've seen, is that they just sit there while I rattle on. It begins to feel like "rent-a-friend".

My suggestion would be to go back in for your next appointment & discuss how you felt about how things went at this last appointment. One thing I would not recommend is to bail out on this T based on this one experience alone. You'll never make any progress if you bail every time you have an uncomfortable experience with a therapist. The only other alternative is to find one who just sits there while you rattle on... sort-of like "rent-a-friend". I wish you well...

P.S. Here's a link to an article from PsychCentral's archives on the subject of what to do when you're mad at your therapist:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-to...our-therapist/