((((golden)))),

Sorry your own thread is triggering to you. You have been sharing some things you noticed about this guy that did not quite set right with you, nothing wrong with that. It's important to pay attention and be cautious when dating and engaging with someone new. When someone is lonely and trying to find companionship they can be vulnerable and may not see some red flags that may lead to them being hurt. Truth is there are individuals on the internet, dating sites, etc. that take advantage of that and they can be VERY convincing and charming.

Personally, what concerned me and sent a flag up for me is when you described how this individual spent a rather long time in front of the mirror admiring himself and a certain part of himself.

A player can be a pretty cocktail dress, but NEVER a wedding dress. A player can be fun and flirty and be complimentary and even loving, but that is part of being a successful and good player. You can play with them, and you can say yes and say no too, but where you can get hurt is when you BELIEVE they are that wedding dress when that is not what they are.