[QUOTE=Mouse_62;5977562]I think reality testing is a common part of therapy.
But are you saying she actually used the word "tantrum" or you felt thats what she was saying?
A therapist should be equipped to use termiology that helps understand why certain defences come into play.
If she doesn't have the level of understanding then I'd think about findings sometime who has more therapeutic knowledge.
I guess only you know what terminology was used.[/QUOTE

She did use the word tantrum, it had never happened before , and I want to believe it's a one-off. I didn't like it, but fine it's already in the past. I will see how next session goes. You are right , reality testing is common and maybe important part of therapy , so I guess I'll try to be more open