I'm sorry you're having to go through this. An episode of bipolar can have a major impact on our relationships. There is a lot that your husband is still processing. He's obviously just not going through it the right way.

Has he ever been with you to see your psychiatrist? How knowledgeable and clued up is he? Doesn't sound like he understands / knows much about episodes.

I'd suggest couples counselling before you do anything major.