Hello Dubb: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I don't know as there is a lot I could suggest with regard to your concerns. The obvious suggestion here would be for the two of you to enter into some couples counseling. However, from what you wrote, it sounds like your husband would be unlikely to agree to anything such as that. I don't recall if you mentioned anything with regard to seeing a therapist yourself. If you're not, that would probably be a worthwhile effort.

I don't know if any of this will be of any help. But here are links to some articles from PsychCentral's archives on the subject of how to deal with toxic people:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/11-thin...-toxic-people/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...eed-to-escape/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...amily-members/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...-toxic-people/

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!

P.S. Should your circumstances continue to go badly, the other resource you may want to be aware of is the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline ? The Hotline

1 (800) 799-7233

I wish you well...