Prefab, As you know, I suffer from the same problem.

I worry that my inability to forgive things from the past has prevented me from enjoying life to its fullest. Is unfair to my husband (I am really hard on him about things he has done. I try to remember to pray about this on a regular basis.

All we can do is look at things as honestly as we can--as in not be afraid to tell people when they do hurtful things (I have trouble with this) then try to understand where they are coming from. I wonder if some of mine is chemical--as in I just can't stop thinking about the same things over and over.

I have done something a bit like descansos by writing a memoir about my bad decision trying to figure out why I did it. It seems to have helped me a lot...So writing does help. I am glad you are posting about this.

Don't you hate it when you get triggered by things. I am sorry you are going through this.