She talked way too much about herself in therapy sessions. She also really pushed me to root around in my past and come up with "trauma," when what I really needed at the time were some skills to be more assertive and to be more able to regulate my emotions. I needed to deal more with the here and now because I was in crisis and afraid I was going to lose my job because of the depression. I didn't need her to keep pushing me to disclose sexual abuse, which is what she really wanted.

Ironically though she might have helped my self-esteem by being so completely nuts that I had to stand up to her or go completely crazy myself. And I realized that I really do have the capability to stand up to people in authority if it is necessary.

Since then I have had therapists who were better at giving me what I needed at the time, and I have become much better at asking for what I need. It's much better when we are on the same page. I don't entirely blame her. I expect I was a very difficult client. But at the same time I wouldn't go back to her if she is even still around.