Sorry, I don't really get the analogy.

I'm not sure he's bothered because I'm asking him for stuff. I really don't think it's any more complicated than he's extremely sensitive and hears criticism when it's not intended. This is very common for those who have been abused. He gets very jumpy around me if I'm irritable or grumpy about something (like if I express frustration that my computer glitches). Sometimes he even reacts as though I'm irritated when I'm not. Like not even close. He is sensitized to irritation, which is a sign of someone who had to walk on eggshells around an abuser's moods.

I love to cook for him and he only has one sink in the kitchen, so it's hard to manage all the dishes. When I said something like, "I need two sinks", he started saying sadly that I thought his kitchen wasn't good enough for me.

These are all signs of someone who's been abused (which he was) and feels insecure, easily hurt, and easily criticized.