Guys I am kind of getting sick of this. I asked for help in finding what I want and instead you tell me I have to change what I want. No. If you don't have anything to contribute on the subject of my post maybe you shouldn't respond.

Maybe this is why I am a loner.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with trying to narrow down the possibles to realistic goals. Duh if I met a great friend who didn't have one of these qualities I wouldn't say, no way but, in the first instance, it is probably better to try to narrow the field to people I think I will have the best chances of lasting and meaningful friendship with based on past experiences.

I am tried of posting and getting "attacked" as if I don't know my own mind or if it is day one for me on this planet.