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Perna said:
If you are paying, I don't think your T is going to see your son if you don't pay.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Plus, since most insurance does not cover couples sessions, there will be no "co-pay." It will likely be full fee. freewill, you could also just tell your son that since insurance doesn't pay, he needs to foot the bill himself.

I would also ask T his policy on seeing other family members. Some T's will not see friends or family of their clients. My T is a family therapist, so he does see multiple members of the same family in many situations. Can you ask him his policy? He is already seeing both your son and you, so I imagine his training does allow him to do this. Why is your T seeing the ex-girlfriend so hard for you? Is it because you hate her (because of what she has done to your son), so you don't want her to benefit from your T? Are you worried she will say awful things about you to T? Is it the co-payment part? (again--not to worry, as this is most likely not covered by insurance so you won't have a co-pay) Is it because you think your son should be able to deal with his problems regarding this ex-GF himself and shouldn't need therapy for it? I mean, maybe he gosh-darn does need therapy for this issue! Do you want him to go to a different T for that?

I hope you can talk to your T and sort out why you feel so strongly about this and find out his policy. I also think maybe a talk with your son would be helpful. If he knew how strongly you didn't want the ex-GF to go see your T, maybe he would agree it is not a good idea. Maybe, in fact, your son should see different T himself since this is causing so much conflict. Sometimes one T seeing multiple family members can help so much. Other times, it doesn't work, as one family member gets too "jealous" of the others. There is no shame in saying hey look, we tried both having the same T, and I don't think it is working well, can we reconsider? Good luck and TC.

I am so sorry for your dog's death. Our animals truly know us and accept us.