Thanks for all the kind answers! I decided not to text him at least not now. It's true that I had emotionally unavailable people in my family especially my father and I think that's the reason that I'm like this now and want to go after this T. I have a new T now in the public service and I'll see her this friday.
I think my previous T was messed up...not only he threatened me, he wanted to call the police only because I said "I don't want to leave because I want explanations for your behaviour". And I was calm, I didn't shout, I waited for him to speak and I kept telling him I wanted an explanation. He didn't give me one. As you said, there are a lot of red flags here, and even physical aggression. I could report him but no one will believe me since I don't have proofs, and he's too skilled, he'll say that I was the crazy one. I don't know why he used force with me, maybe he thought "ok, she wants to end with me so she's not a client anymore, I can treat her how I want". But this is a huge sign of disrespect and shows he's not compassionate at all!

He knew I had problems, mental health issues, I had problems with my father, I told him that I suspected of having BPD...and still he treated me like that? I didn't suffer badly from his actions, like I don't feel traumatized now...but what if I was too fragile and retraumatized? He acted in an irresponsible way, without considering the consequences of his behaviour. I know now that it wasn't my fault, I'm not the one in fault here because I was a client! He was supposed to help me that's what therapists do! He did none of these things, so why I should pay him? Does he deserve money after this behaviour? It's true that in the previous sessions he gave me his time, but I don't pay a T only for the time. A good therapy needs to have quality.