I recommend venting here. It has helped me process what happened with a T who hurt me.

If he knows his behavior hurt you, then what? I think my last T did, to a certain extent, but didn't have the capacity, or desire, to remedy the situation. Getting in contact with someone like that. . .what's the benefit to you? Contact with people here, even though it's just anonymous people from all over the world, feels better to me than that.

It IS incredible how much a person can hurt you with just a few words -- but, as I mentioned, it hurt me so much BECAUSE I had unresolved hurts from my family and had never found a place with people who I could trust and be myself with. And didn't know how to get over hurts. I'm doing some better about that now.