I am convinced my Mother has NPD too although she never told me I shouldn't feel ways, she was too busy talking about she felt. I'd inconvenienced her enough being born, let alone hearing my feelings!

On the flip side though, my daughter has been diagnosed with anxiety disorder and I am certain she has so many BPD traits already. It's like looking and hearing me sometimes, the way she thinks things through. And I've been very conscious to never speak as you've mentioned around her.