My previous therapist never said it, but my standby therapist has said it a few times and I appreciate and respect her therapeutic judgement the more for it. When I am in a snit or feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, usually caused by FOO shenanigans, I sometimes want to retreat to old, negative patterns. It’s very rare for me that I get to that point, but she has said, “I shouldn’t be saying this, but I hope you will...” and preced with what she wishes I would do. I stopped her once or twice when she was second guessing herself to “just say it.” She did and my life is much richer for her expressing her wishes of what path she hoped I would choose.

Like a previous poster stated, “it depends on the situation.” To keep secrets- that’s not for me, but to disclose something about their life that may help me move forward in my life- I’m in. It could be as simple as them answering how many siblings they have when they may have chosen not to respond previously. Life is fluid and I need my therapist to respond to the fluidity of it. Especially if they believe at that moment it may propel me forward.