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Originally Posted by Mully
Why would he admit fault or regret, though? I get that you are hurt, but I honestly don’t think your T did anything wrong. He’s not a mind reader.
I think it’s totally fair to go in there and express yourself- say hey, I never ask for extra help and I was hurting the other day, and felt like I needed some support and texted you, and didn’t feel satisfied with your response because _____. Take the conversation from there, and perhaps in the future should it come up again hopefully he will know how to help support you better. But I don’t understand how you can be disappointed when he inevitably doesn’t express fault or regret because he didn’t read between the lines.
That’s just me, though!
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Because he's so strict with boundaries I literally didn't feel comfortable adding the words, "I am not OK and need your help," to a text. I still don't. I considered writing it but then didn't because I thought he'd think it inappropriate, based on past conversations I've had with him.
When he said, "Hope you're OK," I didn't feel like I could say, "I'm not, actually," because it's not a sentence about scheduling. Again, I desperately wanted to, but don't feel like he'd approve.
And if that's how a client feels after six months, the therapist has failed their client in a big way. Again, it's why I'm looking for someone else at this point.
I don't have any problems with how long he took to get back to me or the appointment he offered. He didn't clear his schedule nor would I expect him to. Wonderfalls, your comment about calling 999 is very patronising. My friend came over, crawled into bed with me, and held me for seven hours while
But thanks.