The situation with the midwife sounds awful, and I wonder if it makes you sensitive, or "triggered" as some say, if you find yourself in a situation which you feel is a serious crisis, but you have the perception that the person who is there to help is not responding to your communication, or not responding in a timely way.

I don't think it's the T's fault this time but I think your upset and anger seems completely understandable and maybe a good thing to discuss in therapy.

I agree with Electric Manatee, I found it very healing to be allowed to express my anger, regardless of where the fault might have been in whichever situation had triggered it off.