Hi, I'd like to put in a vote for considering telling this friend how you feel. I suppose that would require you to express vulnerability by saying that you feel hurt. And a defensive or denying reaction by your friend could be exasperating. But as at least one other person has said, the fact that this is a longtime friend contributes all the more to it being worthwhile to try. We men in general are not very good at this sort of discussion and friendship maintenance (I just took license to generalize wildly, I know--tell me it ain't true tho' lol). You may be the more sensitive/emotionally literate one in your relationship and you may need to "take the lead", as I have had to in particular inmy same sex friendships (I'm a guy). This is all speculation on my part, of course. The person you describe may not be worth it--he may be really thoughtless. But... I know that as I get older I have only regretted the times I let friendships go without trying to sustain them. Sometimes we have to be the one that tries a little harder, takes a little risk, in order to make that happen. Just some thoughts, I wouldn't claim to know what's "right" for you in this situation. I find myself really hoping that somehow things will work out for you, though.