Hello esthersvirtue, that's a very interesting question.

I think negotiaton takes a long time to get to. It means having great awareness of your own system. With an awful lot of therapy I have come to get that awareness but it doesn't always work to be that controling or to know which part of me is upfront at the time. Sometimes a certain part will take over in a given situation and I've learn't that is not always a bad thing ya know.

It's a good question and one that is certainly worth exploring with your T.

Love to you.