I am the mother of two adult sons. Both have left and they are not doing what I would have written as a script for their happily ever afters. Sometimes I don't hear from them as they get busy..jobs, kids ect. I also carry guilt about things that happened and how imperfect I was as a mother. I talk about this to my therapist and also have a couple similar aged friends who kids have also flown the coop. My younger son knows how to push my buttons and does it hurt. Sometimes I get advice before I talk to my sons and I usually try to stay supportive. Sometimes that is very, very hard to do.