I am not sure that I can help......

we alters negociate... all the time.... the T taught us how to negociate... to talk to each other...

we negociate for who is going to take care of a given situation... and for who will keep him updated... for decisions... like how much money to spend on what..

so alters do negociate for who is going to be "in control" or "handle" certain things... but then there are triggers that don't allow for negociating... things just "take off" from triggers..

our host... doesn't negociate.... she is very unhappy with life... and chooses for the present... to allow the alters to be out and about living life..

the T... has talked to her about making life more liveable.. and more fun... so she wants to be present....at that point... we will "back off"... and allow her to have control... as she is the host..except again in trigger situations...

does that make sense? hope so...