I'm just ranting and venting here...I am so frustrated with men online. It seems like every time I message a man, within like two messages, like "hi" and "what are you up to tonight?" the messages become sexual in nature or sexually suggestive. Like even if I wanted to flirt, the guy hasn't even told me anything about him or said anything that makes me feel flirty about him, so I'm like, um, next.

I'm not one of those that needs to chat for 3 weeks before meeting up. I like to get some basic information and get a feeling for whether or not he's safe or unsafe before meeting up in a public place, where I can better vet him. I'm not against sex or anything of that kind. I'm not against being flirty in messages or chat either.

But like, why would i just jump into having a sexually explicit conversation with an absolute stranger? You might as well be a bot.

I know and believe there are men out there who are not so immature or aren't players like this. I've even become less judgmental about the fact that men really seem to have no ability to market themselves in their online profiles.

But I just get so irritated when I send a nice message to a man and then it's all sexual in nature.

And before all the questions and judgment start, my profile specifically states I'm looking for a long-term relationship, that I don't sext, and that I'm not sharing any naked pics of myself. I'm point blank honest about what I'm not interested in on my profile.

It's just frustrating.

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