When I started with my T (who is approaching 70 in few years) I also thought that he is too old and couldn't possibly understand me. It was very far from truth. What I've come to understand over the years I've worked with him is that he does not feel himself old and through working with him I've also started to think differently about older people in general.

My T has no problem with email and computers. Ok, he doesn't use facebook but I think that is very wise of him, considering his profession. But he has is professional web page that he keeps up to date and where he publishes articles about things that are important to him etc.

He can also freely talk about any subject regarding sex or sexuality. I think earlier in our treatment he hypothesised that I could be gay without knowing it myself. So, when we talked about something regarding sex or when I discussed some of my experiences (especially those that were really bad) he on several occasions like almost passing on innocently asked "but what about women? could it feel different with them?".

So, this was not really answering the question of this topic but rather I wanted to say that experience of working with my older T as been very useful for me for understanding that the age number really doesn't mean anything. Regarding connection, not being able to connect with people is one of my biggest issues and we definitely don't manage to connect every session. I guess when we do connect it happens because that he manages to say something that touches me deeply. It's not related to age at all.