Mine is 25 years older than me. I am in my early forties. I can't connect easily with her due to all the usual issues with trust, but she waits patiently and openly for me. Aside from the therapeutic relationship, I think we share some key aspects - for example, we are both lesbians and have broadly similar politics - which helps me assume a certain understanding. Actually, now that I think of her it makes me sad that I can't readily connect because everything is in place for that to happen.