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Originally Posted by long_gone
I am not sure. I have connected with her more than I did with my previous male therapist. My fears around connection seem to be more about maternal transference than being influenced by sexuality. Having said that, I am too emotionally dim to distinguish sexual attraction from emotional connection so maybe you have a point.
Do you deliberately choose straight therapists? What is it about a shared sexuality which makes the idea of attachment so scary? These ideas are interesting, thank you.
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I do deliberately choose straight ts. For a while I wondered if my t might be exploring her sexuality. I got a really strange feeling off her and she was divorcing her husband. It terrified me and I completely shut down.
I don’t want a t to bring sexuality into the equation. I had maternal transference for my t which eventually turned into erotic. It was fine for me to fantasise but if she had of disclosed that she was gay or felt the same about me, I would have been out of there so fast. For years I dreamed about being with my t but now that would be my biggest fear.