Interesting that you point out the accusation "throwing a fit." My dad had Alzheimer's, and would get very, very angry. One very loving and lovely caregiver at an institution he finally had to go to (after years at home and when my mother no longer had the physical or any other strength to care for him) said gently, "He's just EXPRESSING HIMSELF." Oh, wouldn't it be wonderful if more people could understand this -- maybe if they did, they could help us calm down. Excellent therapists can help us calm down, at least in my case one can.