I think if you are dissociating a lot, that might be warping your sense of time too? Your husband getting the anger, that's after you have left T because the time is up; she has to end the session when it ends.

Our mind can "string" things, like pulling taffy, so if you think of something in session, your mind may just keep on going, keep on triggering things afterwards and there's not a whole lot your T can do about that. I use to do that, drive home hardly knowing what I was doing, driving too fast, missing my exit, etc. She may be trying to stop the stringing by not discussing some of the flashbacks so hopefully they don't string or not so bad or she may not be aware of how they are affecting you because you haven't told plainly enough so she understands?

You really have to tell your T what is happening so she can know and adjust what she is doing. We can only guess at what is happening and what she might be doing and the sorts of things that might be happening to you.

But T's are not "in control" especially of us/our minds; before, during or after our sessions and we have to work with ourselves and "adjust" to what is going on. Some of that is our work with our minds to do all the time and it gets harder with therapy. Not everyone is suited for therapy because they can't hold themselves together enough? My T and I once had a discussion along those lines and she offered to have me go see a therapist she thought was better than she at "telling" how far I could "bend"/go and whether it was dangerous for my health for me to be in therapy.