I'm not a big fan of therapy, but it sounds like this therapist has helped you make some changes for the better and maybe she is trying something to help you, in a different way, with a different kind of problem. You wrote:


There is nothing you can do about the guys who are out there. There IS maybe something that you can do about, I don't know. . . interacting with them. I think that's what she was trying to alert you to. Seems not to have worked very well, maybe it was too "shocking". But, still, maybe something to consider -- is there anything that YOU can do, which is all you have any control of, to help yourself find and make the life that you have said that you want?