Sorry for the long post. I may not be able to handle this with my MI. I want your opinion on this. I hope the following will not trigger any person reading this.

I have known this woman for twenty years. We were together for a few years, but I figured out that she was still in love with her ex husband who beat her allot. Now it is twenty years later. We have a daughter together. We may get married. If this is the case, it would be a very pragmatic relationship. Still we do care about each other. She helps me, and I am there for her.

The reason we are thinking of getting married is to solve some problems. She has a work permit instead of a green card. Due to this, she has no legal status which is not the case with having a green card. She has been in th U.S for thirty years, twenty years with a work permit. Her lawyer made some big mistakes over this. In order to cover this up, the lawyer told her not to approach Immigration, for she would be deported. This does not make sense since Immigration has been renewing her work permit all along. They know she is here, and where she lives. She is a documented alien with a work permit.

I do very much want to keep her here in my family. She is very important to me. My daughter would lose her mother. So marriage would solve this problem and other problems. I am willing to do anything for her to make sure she is secure. This I promised her many years ago.

I am going to have a talk with her. I need to know specifically her reasons for marriage. I also want to find out how she really feels about me. Then I will contemplate some and come to a decision. I will have a hard decision to make. I just hope I can keep myself together. I do not want any more stressors in my life, otherwise, my MI will kick in. I am already very depressed.

PS She is going to see a lawyer about this soon and find out her current status with Immigration.