I would only marry someone that I was in love with, romantically, who felt the same way about me.

Still, I'm sure that what I would do wouldn't work for everyone. This holds especially true if other cultures are involved. Marrying someone "for love" is relatively new even in the US, and even though we're fed a steady diet of romantic movies from Hollywood and whatever passes for TV these days, who or what gives anyone else other than you and your partner the right to an opinion about who to marry and why you should get married?

I guess my only advice is to not give anyone else's opinion, other than your partner's, much weight at all. This decision is about you and her.