I keep dipping into OKC - it is supposed to be for more serious relationships (otherwise why ask all those detailed questions?) not just casual sex, most of the posters I see apart from the obvious scammers (it seems infested with DirtyTinder scammers) do not appear to be players - they also just don't seem that interested in me. Had a few likes but they seem to go nowhere, and tbh I am full of doubt about my own ability to sustain a relationship emotionally, but I do also feel lonely and in need of love (emotionally and sexually), so I dip in and out periodically, torn between those 2 things.

Speaking as a male I certainly do not do the whole penis pics and gross comments thing, I'm actually pro feminist and deplore men who do that sort of thing.