My T is about 10 years younger than me. I don't know that I "connect" with her. I feel like I "use" her. I don't get or expect or want "support" from her. I do expect her to listen and hold what I tell her without being judgmental. I also expect her to have expertise and skills in the things I need her to have them in and apply them as needed. I like her enough and she does her job to an acceptable degree. That's all I expect of her.
But I don't feel an emotional connection with her. When I or any part of me is dissociating I expect her to help us get grounded as much as she is able. Once time is up I leave. There are times when I am not grounded at leaving time and I sense she is torn about me going out into the world in that state. She appears to not be very comfortable with it and tries to get me to stay longer and get grounded. But at leaving time it is leaving time and there is nothing she could do or say that will change anything. I have depended on myself for this whole life. There is no reason why I should depend on another person to do it for me now.