Hello Shuis --

Welcome to the forums. First loves, second loves, all loves are hard to get over. Especially if a person has emotional depth.

Good for you for not taking the step of becoming physically intimate. After our "energetic bodies" intermingle, the bonds can become even stronger.

Some men like to keep another woman in one's face -- my ex-husband does this. I'm no psychiatrist, but I guess it feeds their egos in some way. Do you think he is putting you in the face of his new gf? Perhaps portraying you as this clinging X who just can't let him go to ramp up her interest? I mention this because this is the script that my X uses.

He keeps you jealous -- and he uses your jealousy and pain to show the new gf how desirable he is.

Perhaps a period of time when you stop emailing will help? As for work, I don't know what to say. It will take time until you see him as emotionally manipulative.

What he is doing may be passive-aggressive: other members who know more about psychology may chime in on this, as the thread develops.

Six months is not so long. It takes as long as it takes to recover. Please be gentle with yourself and protect your heart from him.

The forums are a great place to share what you are going through and to get support.