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Old Jan 22, 2008, 03:16 AM
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Bluesguy, I think your post is hard to respond to because it's so specific. I feel like I'd almost need to know you in real life to have a truly valuable response. That said, here's what your post left me thinking.

You don't seem to have the emotional tools you need to make a serious relationship, friendly or romantic, work. This isn't your fault. But something like that takes a lot of work to fix. As I recall, you're in therapy and I'm glad as that's the best place to gain the emotional skills you'll need. I say emotional skills/tools because I don't think your problem is social. It seems you handle social situations fine. It's emotional intimacy that gets messy for you. You want/need to let people in but once they're there you don't sound like you know what to do. It also sounds like you're extremely worried about getting hurt by those you let in.

But hey, that's all just what was in my head. The main thing I think is to work on these issues in therapy. The problem seems complex enough that it's going to take a professional to help you unravel it.

I'm sorry if this wasn't helpful and I'm sorry you're struggling.

Cyran0
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