My kids were, twins aged 10 and son aged 15 when I entered therapy. They're 24 and 29 now.
I had fears around thrm too. Being in therapy helped me raise them I feel. I still have struggles. But I do tend to be aware of it and keep it from them. Sometimes my anxiety leaks out and the kids say "oh mum, you're so dramatic" lol.
I'm glad they see it like that. Means they don't share my anxietys haven't had my awful experiences. . I must have managed to contain it, because T also contained it for me.