In my experience, codependency began the moment my butt hit the chair. Was true with every therapist. I think it's the nature of therapy.

I know what it's like to have feelings for a therapist. Very confusing. Trying to engage with someone on a social level who presumes to define your thoughts, behavior, feelings as normal or abnormal... creepy and fraught with problems.

And if that person goes as far as laying a personality disorder on you, that's even worse in my view, and I would not want to be involved, professionally or personally, with someone who trades in such things.