Thanks everyone, the encouragement to tell my T has been helpful and I’m now going back and forth about whether to tell her in our session in a few days. While I don’t need to tell her who the person is exactly, that’s kind of big reason I’m so triggered by it - it’s the specific person who is very triggering to me, so I don’t know how much relieve I would feel if I told my T about the behavior and not about the person. Maybe some of the shame would go away, but I think I would still be very triggered. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to give me advice over PM? I scared of saying any more about the relationship on a public forum.