Hi dancinglady,

I agree with you, trying to do all the right things, trying to be the best I could be, going to therapy to help address issues -- all very highly overrated. Expensive and a waste of time. Basically, a con. If they had just told me, this is the way you are, some people are really not going to like it, and you may have a hard time getting along with the rest of the world sometimes, but you can find things you like to do and ways, maybe, to contribute to the world anyway. I think that would have been a much better way thing to do than, "Anything you are willing to face, you can overcome." Basically, a lie.

I didn't have BPD, I probably had OCPD before I fell apart after my husband died. Over-rigid control that kept impulses dissociated and otherwise in check. After I fell apart I couldn't work, so you're doing great, it seems to me!!