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Originally Posted by toomanycats
I can only say that knowing a therapist's likes, dislikes, experiences, and feelings does not mean that you know them. You know them in a bubble. You know who he is in his office. Knowing someone isn't about knowing what they tell you they like/dislike or feel or have been through. You know someone by experiencing them, and your experience is limited to the office.
The truth is, he is an entirely different person away from that office - when he's living 'out loud' in front of people...in front of the world. And, people are very different when they are out in front of the world.
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To be fair, that can be said about anyone. You only get to know people by learning more about them and spending more time with them. Relationships are this very same format... you don't know someone just because you start dating them, thats the whole point of any relationship, to get to know people better
Life's about risks... sometimes it's worth taking a shot with someone, rather than just assuming it wont work. You can get a very good idea of who a person is too in some cases, like my experience, I've seen him out of the office in some really odd scenarios.... I see how he handles people who are not clients etc.
Anyway... so yes and no... knowing stuff about a person is forming a deeper connection, and getting to know them more and spend time with them is the only way to deepen it, again, not just for this post but for all relationships