An argument against advising people not to return to abusive relationships is that they already have been advised this by others and/or by their internal voice. Nevertheless they may feel helpless, that they have to go back, and thus they may feel shamed, and therefore angered, by their perceived helplessness and by the reminders from well-meaning others.

Another risk to consider is that we might unconsciously give advice so as to quiet the voice inside of ourselves, the voice that tells us to be helpful. Sometimes though the best help we can give is simply to be present and supportive, discussing pros and cons but remaining neutral ourselves, and then supporting them in their decision one way or the other.