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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
I feel for you and I can understand you as I partly feel the same. It would be interesting to gather all clients who feel or have felt that they donīt gain anything from therapy.
If you aim rather low therapy can be helpful I think, perhaps something like "I want someone to listen to my problems" or "I want to have the courage to tell a person about a situation that happened to me. But as soon itīs about wanting to reach more complicated goals that really affects oneīs life I donīt believe a therapist can help in any way.
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SaSw--I attended a lunch hosted by TELL a number of years back, attended by women harmed by therapists. Most had experienced sexual violations. It was an impressive room of thoughtful, highly articulate, pulled together women. (I'm not back-patting myself here.) It was quite a club.
I agree with you that therapy is more likely to be fulfilling if expectations are low. If it was presented as a room where I can talk, or a witness, that would have been truthful. Unfortunately, my therapists promised, implicitly or explicitly, that some catharsis and magical transformation would occur.* They seemed to believe their own publicity. I know a therapist in a non-professional context and she's a know-it-all self-appointed priestess. I can just imagine her full-throttle wizard-of-Oz with her vulnerable clients.
*Over the decades life has left me less anxious, more spontaneous, if still a square peg.