1, its not about the t. Its never about the t. Unless its a really bad t, and that does not appear to be the issue here.

2. Youre not a child. Why is that in your name?! So its about making that leap from child to not-child.

3. T represents that leap to not-child. So yeah youre angry at t. Its not about t being "impermeable" or ts feelings, its about you making the right conclusions / connections? Seeing that its YOUR feelings.

Imo. T is not being "sensitive", you dont need to apologize for wanting to stay with parents where its comfy cozy.