I second what Divine said. You have set boundaries for this relationship and they broke them. I would reconsider if you want to be in a relationship with two people who do not respect your boundaries or care enough to comfort you when you are feeling poorly.

Part of any relationship is dealing with one person feeling sexually aroused and the other not being in the mood. They left you out, which is against the rules, which in a way, sounds like cheating to me.

I'm not sure what your next move should be. If this continues, it would be advisable to leave the relationship, since they are cheating on you and not meeting your needs.

And yes, sometimes sex is just sex. It's not always about love and commitment. But in your relationship you have boundaries that you have all agreed to and they disregarded those boundaries. You have to decide how you will handle this breach of trust and respect.

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