For me, it was when I was able to get my fat but off the couch and go live a life that I get to direct. I am pretty okay with being alive and enjoying my time participating in my own life. I am able to take responsibility for what I’m feeling when others affect me. I no longer give others that power; they’re my feelings. This mind frame has certainly led to better physical health. In the past,I used to manifested all emotional pain physically. Therapy changed my life in so many ways. In the beginning my therapist had to remind me, time and again of the little steps that were happening till I could see them, HOLD on to them and give MYSELF permission to have a good life that I got to define.