Shellbe, my heart goes out to you. You are in the middle of a completely screwed up situation and I'm just so sorry that this is happening to you.

You said you're both young. That could explain some of your husband's attitudes and actions, I suppose. In my early twenties I was a moron. It's hard to admit that now but it's true. As a young man I could get so self righteous and spout off in ways that I'm pretty ashamed of now. The good news is that guys can grow out of this. I did.

In the meantime, you might try treating conversations with your hubby like a highschool debate. He doesn't believe in depression? Site the American Psychiatric Journal as a source. Establish yourself as the informed and scholarly one. Even the most egocentric of young males have trouble arguing against entire institutions of data.

As for financial troubles, consider going to a financial planner under the guise of "managing this period of unemployment". A financial planner will provide structure to your finances and will provide an expert opinion that will be hard for your husband to argue with.

Finally, and I know this is a lot to put on you, but be the calm responsible one. Your husband just took a serious blow to his ego, security, masculinity, etc. He's probably got a lot of painful emotions right now and it doesn't sound like he's got the tools to deal with them. Try not to engage in heated arguments but instead be the calming force for the moment.

And don't forget to take care of yourself. Talk to your therapist. Maybe there's a way you can defer billing for your appointments for a time. Your T is a great resource and now might not be the best time to lose him/her.

My two cents. I hope it helps and be safe.

Cyran0