I can definitely see how some could use the term judgement used - in terms of how PC members choose to respond to this post.

Fair enough.

I see it as PC members offering advice from a different perspective, which is exactly what the OP is requesting in this post.

Something like sex for some of us can mean very different things; as we all come from different walks of life and have vastly different experiences (some not so pleasant at all). So our interpretations and advice on a polygamous relationship is a little different to others.

RubySaffire I totally relate to sex drive and depression. It's awful. And not getting support from significant others is devastating to say the least.

Are you in counselling at all for your depression? I find counselling somewhat helps, but it has to be long term counselling for me in order to make a difference.

Sharing things in common with our significant others is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship. Some people just don't respond well at all when we go through a depressive stage - either due to a lack of education as to what this involves or perhaps through empathy. I'm not sure. I think that my ex husband was in complete denial that my depression existed, and in fact went so far as to tell me I shouldn't be on meds and I should just "think" my way out of it.